Joe Mantegna rose to fame playing Special Agent David Rossi on “Criminal Minds,” but beyond the camera, he is a loving husband and father. When he and his wife welcomed their first daughter, it was the beginning of a journey marked by both unexpected challenges and deep family bonds.
While his eldest faced early health struggles, his second child became her sister’s protector. Take a closer look at the actor’s long-lasting marriage and how both of his daughters have since gone on to carve their own paths and make their father proud.
Joe Mantegna at the Pageant of the Masters Art & Fashion Affair on August 24, 2024, in Laguna Beach, California. | Source: Getty Images
Joe Mantegna at the Pageant of the Masters Art & Fashion Affair on August 24, 2024, in Laguna Beach, California. | Source: Getty Images
A Hollywood Legend and a Lasting Love Story
Joe’s path to acting began with a high school dare in 1963. A friend challenged him to try out for “West Side Story” at Morton East High, and while didn’t get the role, he found a thrill in performing that changed his life.
After high school, he joined a rock band called the Apocryphals, sharing the Chicago music scene with bands like the future rock group Chicago.
But it was in theater that Joe found both his calling and his partner, Arlene Vrhel. They met in 1969 when both were cast in a local production of “Hair.” Friendship turned to romance, and they began a journey together that would span more than fifty years.
Joe and Arlene didn’t rush into marriage, living as free spirits for nearly a decade before officially tying the knot in 1975. “We just had a lot of fun, but we didn’t get married for the longest time because we were hippies,” Arlene revealed.
Just weeks before their wedding, the couple exchanged private vows at the Eiffel Tower. In 2023, the former “Criminal Minds” star, who celebrated his 77th birthday in October, was asked about the secret to his lasting marriage.
“The way I like to put it is that marriage is like being on a roller coaster,” He stated. “It’s fun, but then these scary turns happen. The trick is, at least for me, is that we hung on during those scary turns. Then things smoothed out again. For us, the ride keeps getting better and better.”
Mia’s Journey – Overcoming Early Struggles and Embracing Autism
On June 5, 1987, Joe and his wife welcomed their first daughter, Mia. Arlene’s pregnancy initially seemed smooth, but when she noticed a sudden drop in movement, doctors quickly diagnosed an umbilical cord infection, forcing an early delivery.
Mia, Gia, and Joe Mantegna with Arlene Vrhel at the 2nd Annual Feast of San Gennaro in 2003. | Source: Getty Images
Mia, Gia, and Joe Mantegna with Arlene Vrhel at the 2nd Annual Feast of San Gennaro in 2003. | Source: Getty Images
Mia arrived three months premature, weighing only one pound and 15 ounces, one of California’s smallest newborns that year. Joe recalled the shock of seeing his tiny daughter for the first time, feeling both overwhelmed and determined, saying, “Here’s our daughter, and she’ll be fine.”
Gia, Joe, and Mia Mantegna with Arlene Vrhel and Matthew Gray Gubler at a party for Paul Feig’s sci-fi novel “Ignatius MacFarland: Frequenaut!” on September 28, 2008, in Los Angeles, California. | Source: Getty Images
Gia, Joe, and Mia Mantegna with Arlene Vrhel and Matthew Gray Gubler at a party for Paul Feig’s sci-fi novel “Ignatius MacFarland: Frequenaut!” on September 28, 2008, in Los Angeles, California. | Source: Getty Images
In those early days, Mia’s health was fragile. She often stopped breathing, prompting the famous actor to replace their home’s white porch light with a red bulb to help ambulance drivers locate their house in case of emergencies.
Mia, Joe, Gia, and Will Mantegna with Arlene Vrhel on the Hollywood Walk of Fame on April 29, 2011, in Hollywood, California | Source: Getty Images
Mia, Joe, Gia, and Will Mantegna with Arlene Vrhel on the Hollywood Walk of Fame on April 29, 2011, in Hollywood, California | Source: Getty Images
Despite the constant health scares, Mia gradually grew stronger, and by age two, she appeared to be reaching new milestones. However, her parents began noticing differences in her development — Mia was not speaking, avoided eye contact, and often repeated phrases, a condition known as echolalia.
Mia, Joe, and Gia Mantegna with Arlene Vrhel at the National Arts and Entertainment Journalism Awards Gala on December 6, 2015, in Los Angeles, California. | Source: Getty Images
Mia, Joe, and Gia Mantegna with Arlene Vrhel at the National Arts and Entertainment Journalism Awards Gala on December 6, 2015, in Los Angeles, California. | Source: Getty Images
When she was diagnosed with autism, the news hit Joe and Arlene hard. “I remember it hit my wife and me like a ton of bricks, because, first of all, it was just a word we had heard about,” he said.
Autism was much less understood in the early ’90s, and Joe recalled, “You were afraid to walk in puddles and stuff because nobody even knew how you got it, and there was no cure for it. So it was a little like that.”
Joe, Mia, and Gia Mantegna with Arlene Vrhel at the Festival of Arts in Laguna Beach, California, in 2017. | Source: Getty Images
Joe, Mia, and Gia Mantegna with Arlene Vrhel at the Festival of Arts in Laguna Beach, California, in 2017. | Source: Getty Images
Determined to support Mia in every way possible, the Mantegnas enrolled her in a special education program and encouraged her musical gifts. Mia developed a nearly perfect sense of pitch, using music as her preferred form of expression.
Arlene often marveled at her daughter’s ability, noting that the little girl covered her ears if anyone sang off-key, a testament to her extraordinary talent. Over the years, Mia’s interests extended beyond music to makeup artistry, an area where she thrived.
Mia and Joe Mantegna with the Festival of Arts/Pageant of the Masters PR Director Sharbie Higuchi at The Festival of Arts Celebrity Benefit Event on August 26, 2017, in Laguna Beach, California. | Source: Getty Images
Mia and Joe Mantegna with the Festival of Arts/Pageant of the Masters PR Director Sharbie Higuchi at The Festival of Arts Celebrity Benefit Event on August 26, 2017, in Laguna Beach, California. | Source: Getty Images
Alongside her younger sister, Gia, Mia completed a professional makeup course, becoming the first autistic graduate of the Mudd School. Now, as a makeup artist for Inclusion Films, she continues to find purpose and joy in her work.
Reflecting on life with Mia, Joe shared that he could not imagine a world without her unique spirit, adding, “I don’t know what it’s like not to have a daughter with autism.”
Actress Kirsten Vangsness with Joe and Mia Mantegna onstage during the 2018 Make-Up Artists and Hair Stylists Guild Awards on February 24, 2018, in Los Angeles, California. | Source: Getty Images
Actress Kirsten Vangsness with Joe and Mia Mantegna onstage during the 2018 Make-Up Artists and Hair Stylists Guild Awards on February 24, 2018, in Los Angeles, California. | Source: Getty Images
Through every step, Joe, Arlene, and their family embraced Mia’s journey, grateful for each milestone she reached and hopeful for the future. “She’s wonderful. She’s pursuing her art. […] It’s quite incredible. She’s 36 years old but a child at heart,” the actor revealed in 2023.
Mia and Joe Mantegna at the opening night of “Footloose: The Musical” on March 2, 2024, in Burbank, California. | Source: Getty Images
Mia and Joe Mantegna at the opening night of “Footloose: The Musical” on March 2, 2024, in Burbank, California. | Source: Getty Images
Meet Gia Mantegna
Three years after Mia’s birth, Joe and Arlene welcomed their second daughter, Gia. From a young age, Gia showed a unique understanding of her sister’s needs and became Mia’s steadfast protector.
“Gia understood that her older sister was a lot different than the other kids,” Joe revealed. He recalled the pride he felt watching Gia take on the role of both sister and mentor, recognizing Mia’s differences with empathy beyond her years.
Mia’s autism taught Gia patience and compassion, shaping her perspective on life and relationships. Growing up alongside Mia gave the Mantegnas a clearer view of typical developmental milestones, helping them distinguish between what stemmed from Mia’s autism and what reflected her individuality.
Joe often said that Gia, in many ways, felt like an older sibling, developing a maturity that came from supporting Mia and guiding her in everyday life. Beyond her role as Mia’s sister, Gia pursued her own path, exploring both acting and real estate.
The “Criminal Minds” star admired his daughter’s tenacity, noting how she handled challenges with the same resilience she showed in supporting her sister. “She’s like the son I never had,” Joe remarked, impressed by her ability to tackle practical problems with confidence.
Joe and Gia Mantegna at the 21st Annual Movieguide Awards on February 15, 2013, in Universal City, California. | Source: Getty Images
Joe and Gia Mantegna at the 21st Annual Movieguide Awards on February 15, 2013, in Universal City, California. | Source: Getty Images
While Gia’s interest in acting seemed natural, Joe admitted he initially questioned whether his daughter truly had the talent or was merely influenced by his career. But as he observed her work, he realized that Gia had an innate ability that couldn’t be taught — a gift she could build upon.
Joe and Gia Mantegna at the grand opening of Sugar Factory Hollywood on November 13, 2013. | Source: Getty Images
Joe and Gia Mantegna at the grand opening of Sugar Factory Hollywood on November 13, 2013. | Source: Getty Images
“You can see the kids that have the kind of natural ability they can improve upon. And then there are the kids that, well, it’s not their cup of tea. Gia does have it. I’m not kidding myself because she’s my daughter,” he shared.
Joe and Gia Mantegna at the Festival of Arts Celebrity Benefit Event on August 28, 2021, in Laguna Beach, California. | Source: Getty Images
Joe and Gia Mantegna at the Festival of Arts Celebrity Benefit Event on August 28, 2021, in Laguna Beach, California. | Source: Getty Images
Arlene and Joe Mantegna’s journey as parents has been marked by both joy and resilience. Through the challenges of Mia’s autism and the growth of Gia’s compassion and talents, they’ve built a family grounded in support and love.
